Many men nowadays complain that every relationship they get into does not seem to last
more than a few weeks. They complain that their girlfriend’s are too nagging,
too noisy, to demanding or simply they are not compatible with each other. What
many of these men don’t realize is that they can be able to create their own successive relationships by looking for the right traits in a woman before you
start dating her.
Let’s
take a look at the top 10 things in a significant other that will make for a
lasting relationship.
1. She’s independent
No one gets into a relationship to be a
babysitter. If she’s had a rough day at work, it’s great to be her shoulder to
cry on. But if she can’t seem to function without you, you’ll eventually
suffocate, and if you’re smart you’ll run for the nearest exit.
Independence is key to a happy relationship, for
both the man and the woman. You’ll find you’re still getting to know her long
after you've gotten serious if she has a host of interests and commitments
outside of your relationship.
2. She’s intelligent
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the
bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. A woman who can meet you at an
intellectual level is a total turn-on.
An intelligent woman will constantly surprise
you and keep you on your toes. She won’t let you get bored or complacent.
Besides, it’s nice to have something to talk about between all that
headboard-rattling sex.
3.She’s sexual
While we’re on the topic, a great girlfriend has
to be sexually compatible with you. The two of you have to be on the same page
— or, at least, if it’s what you really crave, she has to be willing to wear
leather and use a whip from time to time.
Of course, this doesn't imply that she has to know
all the right moves straight away; it simply means that you and she have an
undeniable attraction toward each other and are able to communicate your
desires verbally (or with physical cues). It is important that you please each
other in the bedroom — or on top of the dryer — whatever the case may be.
4. You’re attracted to
her
I know, this one is kind of obvious, but
important nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for
you, but also for herself.
Being seen with her should make you feel better
about yourself. Your mutual attraction should make you both want to stay
looking your best.
5. She respects you
This is a biggie. Your girlfriend must respect
you — otherwise you have to wonder why she bothers to be with you. This means
that she takes the time to listen to you, even if you’re in a heated argument.
A great girlfriend will keep major disputes
private rather than taking you down in public. She’ll make an effort to see
things from your point of view (provided you do the same for her). The key here
is that the respect be mutual — it’s very hard for one of you to respect the
other while feeling disrespected. The golden rule has no better application
than in terms of respecting your significant other.
6. She lets you be a man
Do not — I repeat — do not get involved with a
woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and
insists that you give up poker night with the guys. You will end up resenting
her more than you can imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your
glory, poker night and all. If she’s a great girlfriend, she’ll even bring you
and your buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches.
She has to understand that men and women are
different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn't deprive
her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn't expect you to
give up the guys for her.
7. She doesn't nag
without a good reason
I have never met a man who was convinced to
change his behavior because of his girlfriend’s nagging. A great girlfriend
knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to get upset and when
to let it slide.
However, if you live together and you stay out
all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you’re setting
yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide — not
even a great girlfriend. Don’t push your luck with anyone, least of all your girlfriend.
8. She gets along with your friends and family
A great girlfriend will make an effort to get to
know your people. She’ll help your parents out at Thanksgiving, try to
understand your brother’s twisted sense of humor and want to get to know your friends.
She’ll actually empathize with your sister’s
getting dumped and suggest that you guys take her out to cheer her up. Not only
that, but your friends won’t roll their eyes and moan when you mention that
she’ll be joining you guys when she gets off work — she’s one of the crowd.
9. She loves you
If you have found a woman who loves you for who
you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should
definitely hang on to her. Of course, everyone has their slightly annoying
habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she’ll
be able to cope with these.
Another way to know if she really loves you is
by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If
the sight of you doesn't seem to faze her either way, and she doesn't really
seem to care about what you have to say, she’s either playing very hard to get,
or she sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from
you makes her light up, there’s no denying that she loves you.
10. She makes you want
to be a better man
Stop making that face… Any man who has a great
girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man.
She doesn't have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly
feel bad about how you treated your sister when you were younger or find
yourself trying to get your finances in order to prepare for the future, you
might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It
could be love.
T99
No comments:
Post a Comment